“From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995
“Often, when we know we need to deal with something difficult, we hold it in and wait until we have some type of support system in place to help us cope.”- Lucinda Bassett
“One of the most important parts of recovery is setting up a solid support system. Make sure that you have a comfortable group of people, close friends or family, who will support your strengths and disempower your weaknesses. This group will prove to be one of the greatest blessings in your life.” (p.138, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“It doesn’t matter how many degrees you have, how you look or where you come from. What matters is how much you believe in yourself and how committed you are to achieving what you want. Period. When you’re strongly committed and you’re clear about what you want, things will begin to happen to bring you closer to your goal.”(p. 166, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“There comes a time in your adult life when you have to say, “Okay, I’ve been through some difficult stuff, but if I’m not healthy, happy, or successful as an adult, I’m doing it to myself. Maybe I’m holding myself back.” Recognize that the past is the past. You are in control of your present and your future. The past affects you only if you let it. Responsibility means the ability to respond in a situation with control and calmness. It turns out that taking responsibility, as difficult as it is initially, is the only road to peace.” (p. 137,“From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“Many people are afraid to get better because they have become so accustomed to being taken care of. If they managed to become stronger, they would have to give up their caretakers and take care of themselves. They’d rather stay stuck.” (p. 140, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
In Lucinda Bassett’s book “From Panic to Power” she gives a list of entitlements.
These are things she believes are reasonable for people to expect.
A right to ask for what they need, for attention, reassurance, appreciation, and affirmation.
A right to be told that they are doing a good job, that they are a good employee, a good parent, a good husband or wife, a good lover.
A right to receive compliments.
A right to make mistakes.
A right to say what they are feeling.
A right to their opinion.
A right to stand up for themselves and be taken seriously.
A right to say no without an explanation.
A right to express their anger.
A right to not always be on, feel good, or sociable.
A right to feel insecure.
A right to feel confident.
A right to questions things they don’t understand.
A right to be happy.
A right to feel good about themselves.
A right to a good loving relationship and healthy friendships.
A right to pick their own friends, even if they differ from those of their partner.
A right to spend time with their friends.
A right to ask for help from a friend, minister, or therapist.
A right to peace of mind.
A right to spend time alone.
A right to rest.
A right to dream.
A right to follow their heart and go after their dreams.
A right to do what’s fun for them as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody.
A right to feel good physically.
A right to feel sexy, no matter what their body looks like and enjoy sex.
A right to feel beautiful.
A right to be smart.
A right to spend time on self-discovery.
A right to seek more spiritual awareness.
A right to play and have fun.
A right to their emotions.
(Pgs. 191-193)
In her book “From Panic to Power” (1995) Lucinda Bassett says, “I have learned that most things of value don’t come easy. Especially growth-oriented experiences that involve work and change. You can’t expect to be excited about doing them at first. Not until you’ve really gotten involved. Not until you’ve started the wheels rolling, let the sweat drip down your forehead, pushed yourself beyond that middle point where you wonder if you can continue, until you finally reach the point where you are so involved and excited, you wonder if you can stop. From this place comes true motivation, determination, and absolute commitment to keep going. Here is where true accomplishment lies. The payoff is the sense of pride and self-confidence that comes when you take control and change your life. Making the decision to take action doesn’t always feel good. Sometimes it’s scary. Sometimes it creates anxiety. You ask yourself, “Does this mean I’ll have to do something? Does this mean I’ll have to work hard at something? Does this mean I’ll have to commit to something, challenge myself or change?” If you want to change your life, you must start by changing yourself.”(P. 131)
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“Often, when we know we need to deal with something difficult, we hold it in and wait until we have some type of support system in place to help us cope.”- Lucinda Bassett
“One of the most important parts of recovery is setting up a solid support system. Make sure that you have a comfortable group of people, close friends or family, who will support your strengths and disempower your weaknesses. This group will prove to be one of the greatest blessings in your life.” (p.138, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“It doesn’t matter how many degrees you have, how you look or where you come from. What matters is how much you believe in yourself and how committed you are to achieving what you want. Period. When you’re strongly committed and you’re clear about what you want, things will begin to happen to bring you closer to your goal.”(p. 166, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“There comes a time in your adult life when you have to say, “Okay, I’ve been through some difficult stuff, but if I’m not healthy, happy, or successful as an adult, I’m doing it to myself. Maybe I’m holding myself back.” Recognize that the past is the past. You are in control of your present and your future. The past affects you only if you let it. Responsibility means the ability to respond in a situation with control and calmness. It turns out that taking responsibility, as difficult as it is initially, is the only road to peace.” (p. 137,“From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
“Many people are afraid to get better because they have become so accustomed to being taken care of. If they managed to become stronger, they would have to give up their caretakers and take care of themselves. They’d rather stay stuck.” (p. 140, “From Panic to Power” by Lucinda Bassett 1995)
In Lucinda Bassett’s book “From Panic to Power” she gives a list of entitlements.
These are things she believes are reasonable for people to expect.
A right to ask for what they need, for attention, reassurance, appreciation, and affirmation.
A right to be told that they are doing a good job, that they are a good employee, a good parent, a good husband or wife, a good lover.
A right to receive compliments.
A right to make mistakes.
A right to say what they are feeling.
A right to their opinion.
A right to stand up for themselves and be taken seriously.
A right to say no without an explanation.
A right to express their anger.
A right to not always be on, feel good, or sociable.
A right to feel insecure.
A right to feel confident.
A right to questions things they don’t understand.
A right to be happy.
A right to feel good about themselves.
A right to a good loving relationship and healthy friendships.
A right to pick their own friends, even if they differ from those of their partner.
A right to spend time with their friends.
A right to ask for help from a friend, minister, or therapist.
A right to peace of mind.
A right to spend time alone.
A right to rest.
A right to dream.
A right to follow their heart and go after their dreams.
A right to do what’s fun for them as long as it doesn’t hurt anybody.
A right to feel good physically.
A right to feel sexy, no matter what their body looks like and enjoy sex.
A right to feel beautiful.
A right to be smart.
A right to spend time on self-discovery.
A right to seek more spiritual awareness.
A right to play and have fun.
A right to their emotions.
(Pgs. 191-193)
In her book “From Panic to Power” (1995) Lucinda Bassett says, “I have learned that most things of value don’t come easy. Especially growth-oriented experiences that involve work and change. You can’t expect to be excited about doing them at first. Not until you’ve really gotten involved. Not until you’ve started the wheels rolling, let the sweat drip down your forehead, pushed yourself beyond that middle point where you wonder if you can continue, until you finally reach the point where you are so involved and excited, you wonder if you can stop. From this place comes true motivation, determination, and absolute commitment to keep going. Here is where true accomplishment lies. The payoff is the sense of pride and self-confidence that comes when you take control and change your life. Making the decision to take action doesn’t always feel good. Sometimes it’s scary. Sometimes it creates anxiety. You ask yourself, “Does this mean I’ll have to do something? Does this mean I’ll have to work hard at something? Does this mean I’ll have to commit to something, challenge myself or change?” If you want to change your life, you must start by changing yourself.”(P. 131)
http://www.stresscenter.com
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