Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Things to study and learn about from book CODEPENDENT NO MORE that could help with Stress, anxiety, and depression

"CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Ohters and Start Caring for Yourself" by Melody Beattie


A general description of codependent people is: “hostile, controlling, manipulative, indirect, guilt producing, difficult to communicate with, generally disagreeable, sometimes downright hateful, and a hindrance to” addictive compulsive behaviors. They holler at addicts, hide addictive materials, make faces, dispose of addictive materials, try to keep addicts from getting addictive materials, want to know why addicts are trying to hurt them, and ask what’s wrong with the addict. They are always ready to rescue addicts from self-created disasters. Codependents worry more about others then about themselves. They constantly give to others but don’t know how to receive. Most codependents are obsessed with other people.


In addition, “By its nature, alcoholism and other compulsive disorders turn everyone affected by the illness into victims – people who need help even if they are not drinking, using other drugs, gambling, overeating, or overdoing a compulsion.” (Pgs. 1-2, 6 “Codependent No More” Melody Beattie 1987)


“Codependent No More” Melody Beattie 1987

Pgs.37-45 Codependent characteristics

Pgs.78-88 What’s a Rescue? Remove the Victim.

Pgs.186-187 Progression of a codependent Personality

Pgs.90-100 Undependence

Pg. 117-127 Learn the Art of Acceptance/Understanding the grief process

Chapter 11 Have a Love Affair with Yourself.

Chapter 16 Set Your Own Goals

Chapter 17 communication

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