"Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down” by Wendy Ulrich 2008
By Small and Simple Means
A colleague of Wendy Ulrich’s began teaching classes on guilt to people at his church and work. “Virtually everyone experienced substantially reduced guilt and depression. What was his secret? He asked class members on the first day to identify some things they felt guilty about, and then he helped them design a simple program to spend fifteen minutes to start working on those things. . .Those who felt guilty about boatloads of stuff made the list, prioritized it, and then spent fifteen minutes working on the first item. People who felt guilty about less concrete things (like getting angry or overeating) spent fifteen minutes just learning more about their problem.” One woman “with a serious pornography addiction came up to him afterward to ask for help, and she set a goal the first week of simply waiting fifteen minutes after she was tempted before giving in. She did not conquer her addiction that week, but it was the first time in years that she had made any inroads at seeing herself as having some choice in her behavior. No one finished off their list or repented of all their sins, but everyone spent a few minutes doing something instead of just feeling guilty and doing nothing.” “Forgiving Ourselves-Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down” Wendy Ulrich 2008 Pgs. 150-152
Obessive Compulsive Tendencies
Pg. 126-132 Shame and Pride: Life on the Teeter-Tooter
Pg. 191-193 Traumatic Shame
Pg. 193-195 The Search for Control
By Small and Simple Means
A colleague of Wendy Ulrich’s began teaching classes on guilt to people at his church and work. “Virtually everyone experienced substantially reduced guilt and depression. What was his secret? He asked class members on the first day to identify some things they felt guilty about, and then he helped them design a simple program to spend fifteen minutes to start working on those things. . .Those who felt guilty about boatloads of stuff made the list, prioritized it, and then spent fifteen minutes working on the first item. People who felt guilty about less concrete things (like getting angry or overeating) spent fifteen minutes just learning more about their problem.” One woman “with a serious pornography addiction came up to him afterward to ask for help, and she set a goal the first week of simply waiting fifteen minutes after she was tempted before giving in. She did not conquer her addiction that week, but it was the first time in years that she had made any inroads at seeing herself as having some choice in her behavior. No one finished off their list or repented of all their sins, but everyone spent a few minutes doing something instead of just feeling guilty and doing nothing.” “Forgiving Ourselves-Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down” Wendy Ulrich 2008 Pgs. 150-152
Obessive Compulsive Tendencies
Pg. 126-132 Shame and Pride: Life on the Teeter-Tooter
Pg. 191-193 Traumatic Shame
Pg. 193-195 The Search for Control
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